Love motif
Love motif – Definition – a recurring set of shared experiences and meanings that uniquely identifies a relationship. I watched a Ted Talk by Eli J. Finkel, and he said that couples that build and maintain a private world together stay together. It can be a word, an image, or even a song that means nothing to the outside world and everything to the couple. It made me think about my relationship with Elaine – in a short period of time we have built a private world that is important to us but would mean nothing to others. How is that possible? First, you need to find something unique that you both share and understand. Next you need to feed it and build on it. Lastly, like anything worth keeping, you need to fight for it. If you are in a serious relationship, identify the tiny moments that are special to you and your partner and nurture them realizing that these are the atoms of your own private element.